Psalm 90:12 …Teach us to count our days that we may gain a wise heart.
I find that many people have little rituals that are a part of their everyday lives. Rituals are familiar actions that transform or transport our awareness if only for a moment. They shake us out of our immediate preoccupation, if only for a moment, and remind us of some transcendent, more permanent value or aspect of our lives. At least they can.
For the last year or so, I have developed an odd ritual that helps me put things that happen in my own everyday life into perspective. Sometimes we choose rituals. Other times they emerge by accident, or by serendipity. My ritual involves a newspaper clipping, one about a friend who passed away who was about my age. I keep it on a set of books near where I hang my keys each day when I arrive at the office. As I get up to answer the door or walk by my desk in route to meeting with a staff or church member, occasionally my eyes will happen upon this faded and folded section of newspaper. Now, I could be in a very good mood when this occurs or I could be amidst a moment of frustration, which inevitably occurs in any job. Regardless, the split second glimpse of this clipping and photo reminds me of how very precious and wonderful my time in the office truly is, of how precious my time in general is. It also helps to put my “first world” woes and challenges into perspective. When I catch a glimpse of my dearly departed friend, I am reminded that what is important and what is not. While details matter, it is important not to always sweat - or fret - about the small stuff.
The truth is that each of us has but 70 to 80 eighty years to write our stories, to take our journeys, to live our lives - with perhaps a little more time for the fortunate few and much less time for the overwhelming majority. Our lives correspond to one small phrase, one tiny utterance of the much larger story that is the history of this world. And therefore, they are precious and not to be taken lightly – or too heavily. Life is too short and the world is too small to harbor resentment and bare grudges. The purpose of life is to grow a soul and encourage others to do the same. Emerson was right on that count. Here at the outset of the year is a good time to take stock of what matters in our lives and makes sure we are being attentive to those things as we go about our daily activities.
January here at the First Church presents several opportunities to connect, to think deeply and to enjoy the company of some great people. See you in church!
On the first Sunday in January, we did something during the service that I do not believe has ever has before before at the First Church: we did a “reverse collection.” Instead of receiving donations and offerings, we gave something away. In advance of this, the Standing Committee had approved handing out $700 during the service, with the money coming from private donations and our Social Outreach fund.
During our reverse offering, each person was handed an envelop with either a $20, $10 or $5 bill inside and a short letter with the following message:
Please accept this gift and invitation from your friends at the First Church in Salem. The money in this envelope is a modest portion of our Social Outreach budget that we use to make a difference locally. The First Church supports many local social service and charitable agencies and helps individuals and families in need. We invite you then to take this relatively small amount of money from our "reverse collection" today and do some good with it. Is there a charity you wish to support or someone you know in need? Can you commit a "random act of kindness?"
The idea to do this was inspired by the story I heard on WBUR in December about my colleague, The Rev. Nathan Detering in Sherborn, MA, who had done something similar last fall. When I heard the story, I knew immediately that I wanted to try it here in Salem. The First Church has a long history of quietly making a difference in our larger community. A few of us get to see the results of our congregation’s generosity up close on a regular basis. The members of the Social Outreach Committee and yours truly meet several times a year to write checks and talk about ways that we can support the larger community. I probably more than anyone else here get to see the results of our Social Outreach programs in action, as I meet and speak with local folks in need of some help or support.
But why should I be the only one to have this opportunity and responsibility? In our tradition, the “ministry” of this church is shared amongst all the members and part of what I do is encourage and pastor people in discerning their own callings and opportunities to serve. I thought the reverse offering would be a fun and engaging way to get us all to think about the ways we can make a difference in the lives of others.
The letter included with the gift also invited everyone to share with us what they decided to do with their “offering.” Inside this month’s Herald, we have included excerpts from some of the reports we have received. For those who are still figuring out what to do with your offering, please feel free to share with us what you decided to do. This has been a fun and inspiring initiative here the beginning of a new year. Part of making a difference in this world is being open the many times when we can "come bearing gifts," both big and small. See you in church.
I am always surprised when I encounter people from near and far who find our way of being religious irksome and even upsetting. These folks typically fall into two groups. First, there are the fervently religious who have a very definite and specific view about their beliefs and about the Bible. They read the opening statement on our website or listen to me describe the First Church and they recoil in irritation or worse at the suggestion that a community that calls itself a church would be this open-minded and tolerant. “What do you mean you have no creed?!” “What do you mean that you don’t have to believe that Jesus is Lord to belong to this community?” What do you mean that the Bible must be read and interpreted thoughtfully and with a thorough understanding of its history and context?” Usually I receive a “snippy” comment or email objecting to the First Church in this way and that’s the end of it.
The second group is a little more challenging at times. These are the folks in our own larger tradition and the wider community who take issue with our religious society being grounded in the Biblical tradition, but open to many other religions as well. Almost always, these are folks who have never set foot in our meetinghouse or attended a service. There are times when I will meet these individuals and when I describe our church, they practically “turn their nose up in the air” at the thought of a UU congregation regularly having readings from the Bible or saying the Lord’s Prayer or using a covenant that is almost 385 years old. If I engage these folks, I am often surprised at their lack of basic biblical knowledge and the assumptions or caricature they have in their minds about Christianity and Judaism. “What do you mean that you talk about Jesus?” What do you mean that you use the Bible on a regular basis?” Too many of our fellow UU’s have conceded the Bible to less informed and meaner spirited traditions in my opinion. I have learned to treat these short encounters as opportunities for me and the other person.
In current parlance, the First Church could be described as a “hybrid congregation,” one that grounds itself in the Jewish and Christian traditions that we know best but is open to many authentic forms of spirituality and practice. (Did anyone attend our Diwali service last November? It was great!) Like all of our fellow congregations in the UUA we have no creedal test for membership, but rather a covenant, a “pledge” we make to one another and to the transcendent each week to “walk together.” When the music is playing and the kids running around and the sermon is being preached it works. Like all communities we are always in process, never complete. But what we do here makes a difference and I like the voices and perspectives and life decisions that I see emanating out of this place. As Rev. James Luther Adams famously wrote years ago, “Church is the place where you get to practice what it means to be human.” By that standard, we are doing quite well these days.
We have a busy month of book groups, Bible studies, homeless forums, organ recitals and special services. I hope you can join us for our weekly journey together.